Managing our roles (Friendster, January 23, 2006)

Interesting topic…….I woke up in the morning, in Seremban, Malaysia, on the day we were going to have team building training.

I just wanted to kill my time till I got shower, so I switched on the TV. Then on TV2, they were having this programme “Positively AM”, hosted by Lina Teoh.

They were talking and discussing about managing our roles. Which roles? Our roles as a child, as a sister, as wife, as a husband, as an employee, as parents, and so on…..Those kinds of role.

It really suited my situation, made me thinking about my roles (a daughter, a sister, a niece, an auntie, an employee)

They had two guest speakers. In overall, the roles must be managed in balance, because we play multiple roles. Sometimes we have to focus more on one aspect at a certain time, because of our limitations. Nobody’s perfect. Sometimes we cannot play a role well, but it doesn’t mean that we are not a good person. So, don’t be guilty about that.

For example:

I am a mother with children. My mother is ill and one of my children is also ill at the same time. What is my priority? Since I have siblings, I can ask them to watch mother while I wouldn’t visit her frequently because I have to take care of my child. I will tell my mother about this and ask her understanding. But in other time, I will spend more time with my mother.

That’s prioritizing and balancing the roles.

Do those roles out of love, not see them as duties or tasks.

In conclusion, to do a role, we must like that role and must know the reason we are doing it.